I was unsure whether to write this on my blog or not but, seeing as I’m so desperate for help and any sort of advice, I decided to tell you all about Oscars problem. It’s a pretty in depth post so I apologise in advance.
Up until the age of one he was fine with going to the toilet. We moved him onto cows milk when he turned one and then the problems started. He had showed no signs of any intolerance to anything before then all of a sudden he wouldn’t go for days on end, and screaming in pain every time he went, to the point where he would bleed (sorry for too much info). I took him to the doctor who prescribed him movicol. At the time, it was a god send. He would go regularly and they wouldn’t be hard for him to pass. He was on movicol for over a year and then the doctors told us to wean him off it gradually. We found out later from doing research online, that the bowel becomes reliant on movicol and can’t go without movicol.
We cut down his milk intake thinking that might help him with going to the toilet, and gradually we would reduce his movicol. Originally he was prescribed one sachet a day, we reduced it to half a day and then just stopped it all together. The good news was he was finally off of movicol, after seeing various posts in forums that other children had been on it until the age of 9 etc and we didn’t want Oscar to be on medication for his life at such a young age when it wasn’t necessary.
The problem still continues to this day. He won’t go to the toilet for up to three days at a time, constantly saying he needs to go but will just refuse. His moods become awful when he needs to go, hence why I think his tantrums are a thousand times worse than most other children of his age. He is now getting to the point where he will vomit because the food has nowhere to go as he won’t go. Before you say he’s constipated I can assure you all hes not. When he does eventually go its fine, texture wise etc. (sorry again!) He has gone back to bleeding every time he goes because its too big when it comes out, I’m not exaggerating it can be the length of my forearm at times!
I am so stressed with it all, and now my hubby is too. I have been in tears over it all and I don’t see it ever getting better. I have looked for various advice online and I have yet to find some other parents that have experienced this and found a solution. If I take him back to the doctors they will just put him back on movicol which isn’t what needs to be done. I’m pretty certain its psychological, as he is too scared to go because it hurts him, I just don’t know how to explain it to him or get it across to him that he needs to go and it wont hurt if he just goes frequently.
Am I the only parent to have been through this? Do you have any advice for me? I get so frustrated and cross with him, and it’s starting to affect my relationship with my hubby as it puts strain on us. It’s getting that bad that if he hasn’t pooed the day before we don’t want to take him out anywhere because he just ruins it with his moods and he wont walk properly and just be a shit all day until he has been. It’s not normal that we feel we need to stay in because of how he will be but honestly you don’t see what he is like. Dan took him to the toilet in a public place near a cafe the other week because Oscar started squatting on the floor ready to push, Dan got him to the toilet and he screamed, and I mean screamed! I could hear him from outside the toilet, everyone was looking at us and even after all of that he STILL didn’t go.
Please help me. I never thought I’d feel this way about a toddler pooing but until you have been through it you can’t even begin to know what its like. Sorry for the in depth blog about pooing effectively but this is a last resort. I can’t end this post on a positive or hope because there isn’t one when it comes to this.